Fat Attraction, Part 2

I never realized how hot fat men were until I met my fiancé.

I never found fat particularly unattractive–I’d just never thought about it. I don’t have many physical preferences, although my love for long hair is a not-so-well-kept secret, and I’d never been in love with a fat man before, so it never really occurred to me. It didn’t even occur to me when I first saw his pictures, or when I first saw him in person. It wasn’t an unattractive trait, just a neutral one, something I thought didn’t matter one way or another.

And then I lay next to him, his arms around me, my back pressed against his stomach, and I felt this amazing synthesis of strength and softness, of the protectiveness of his large, muscular frame, and the cuddliness and comfort of his fat stomach. “Cuddly” is so the wrong word there because it doesn’t sound sexy–but it was. It wasn’t the first time I realized that he was hot, but it was the first time I realized that all of him was.

I’m sure some of the reactions right now are along the lines of “ew fat men are gross stomachs aren’t sexy what’s wrong with you =(“, and you know what, different people have different tastes in physical bodies, and that’s all right. But I’m an immensely practical person–to a fault, some would say–and I would say that finding fat sexually attractive–or learning to, if you don’t already–has distinct advantages.

I’ve posted about this before, but it’s worth mentioning NAAFA’s official policy on fat admirers again:

Further, NAAFA believes that in a society where at least 65% of the population is considered fat, a preference for a fat partner is normal and should be encouraged rather than discouraged.

We live in a society where Chloe Marshall, at the average size for British women, is considered unacceptably fat. Images of thin people in the media are unattainable for most people, especially when their pictures are constantly Photoshopped. Statistically speaking, you are probably not going to end up with a thin mate. Thinking that you deserve a thin significant other, or expecting someone to change his or her body for you, is quite the entitlement mentality.

In addition, we gain weight as we grow older, from things like pregnancy, stress, and changing metabolism. Even if your significant other is thin now, he or she will probably get fat at some point in your lives. That this is termed “letting oneself go” demonstrates not only a cultural bias towards thinness but a fear of getting old. I like the way BStu put it in this post:

Some people think it is limiting to be an FA. Really? There is a range of probably 300lbs of what I’m really turned on by and plenty past that which I find quite aesthetically appealing in its own right. “Thin Admirers” like what? A range of 30lbs, tops?

I wouldn’t say that I had a range of 300lbs for what I found attractive–although if I fell in love with a 500lb man instead of a 240lb man, who knows?–and it would be jumping the gun a bit to suggest that my fiancé and I will always find every part of each other attractive and never find any of the effects of aging objectionable. But I can say with confidence that as we grow older, we’re not going to start finding each other unattractive because we hit the edge of some magically unrealistic 30lb range.

Anyway, this is all a long-winded way of saying that my fiancé’s flying in tomorrow and staying until next Saturday, so I’ll probably be MIA from the internet for a while. Have I mentioned that he’s sexy?

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